Thursday, November 18, 2010


More from "The Traveler's Gift" by Andy Andrews.

"I am where I am today-Mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, and financially--because of the decisions I have made. My decisions have always been governed by my thinking. Therefore, I am where I am today--mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and financially--because of how I think. Today I will begin the process of changing where I am--mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, and financially--by changing the way I think."

Well if that doesn't just put the monkey right back on you, I don't know what does!
So when we say "The buck stops here" this is what it looks like.....WOW!
Every choice we make, every decision, EVERY THOUGHT...has a reaction in our lives.

Yet we act like this is new information, it is not, repeatedly in the Bible this was taught.

  • Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely,
     whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or admirable think about such things.--Phil. 4:8

    • For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he:Proverbs 23:7.

    • 2 Corinthians 10:5Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;”
    "When faced with the opportunity to make a decision, I will make one. I understand that God did not put in me the ability to always make right decisions. He did, however, put in me the ability to make a decision and then make it right.
    The rise and fall of emotional tide will not deter me from my course. When I make a decision, I will stand behind it. My energy will go into making the decision. I will not waste time on second thoughts. My life will not be an apology. It will be a statement."


    How powerful it that? think about it, your life should be a statement, not an apology, so in the future when you are tempted to say "why me?" immediately counter with...
    "WHY NOT ME?"
    "Challenges are gifts, opportunities to learn.Problems are the common thread running through the lives of great men and women. In times of adversity, I will not have a problem to deal with; I will have a choice to make. My thoughts will be clear. I will make the right choice.
    Adversity is preparation for greatness. I will accept this preparation. Why me? Why not me? I will prepare for something great.
    I accept responsibility for my past. I control my thoughts. I control my emotions. I am responsible for my success.
    The buck stops here."

    In a society that loves to enable and encourage victims, this thought process is way outside the box, you will really have to take ownership of this way of thinking, because even your friends will make excuses and blame circumstances for your failures and challenges.

    I was reading an article in "Success" magazine last night that was written by Suze Orman.
    She tells of an encounter with a boutique owner where she shops at frequently, and the owner told Suze that she was opening a second  store. After more conversation with the owner, Suze discovered that she was very unsure of opening the second store but felt like she had put the wheels in motion and was unsure of how to stop, her family was not behind her expansion and in all reality neither was she.
    Now she could have done several things at this point.
    1. Open the store and blame the realtor who suggested expansion when/if it did not succeed
    2. Open the store and blame the economy when/if it did not succeed
    3. Open the store and blame her family for not stopping her when/if it did not succeed
    4. Not open a second store until she felt at peace with the decision and take ownership of her decisions.
    She stuck with her gut and is currently maintaining a healthy boutique in a down economy and she is saying...

    I accept responsibility for my past. I control my thoughts. I control my emotions. I am responsible for my success.
    The buck stops here."

    Have a great day and remember to leave a comment, I would love some feedback.

Wednesday, November 17, 2010


The first decision for success:

The buck stops here...
"From this moment forward, I will accept responsibility for my past. I understand that the beginning of wisdom is to accept the responsibility for my own problems and that by accepting responsibility for my past, I free myself to move into a bigger, brighter future of my own choosing."

Now I have been saying this for years, as I hear someone blame their parents or the environment they grew up in or an event in their life that left them feeling victimized, you have a choice, ALWAYS, to accept that as your lot in life or choose to be happy, choose to be alive, choose to not be a victim, be a victor!
I did not grow up in an ideal situation and I have 2 brothers and 1 sister, but it is amazing to see how differently we have survived our childhood, all in their very different way. 2 of my siblings literally became victims of the 17-18 years of childhood and its like the other 30 years of their life have no merit, they are stuck in a vicious cycle of blame for what they have become and I wish they would hear me when I tell them it is not too late to become something/someone else, become happy, its a choice.

"Never again will I blame my parents, my spouse, my boss, or other employees for my present situation. Neither my education or lack of one, my genetics, or the circumstantial ebb and flow of everyday life will affect my future in a negative way. If I allow myself to blame these uncontrollable forces for my lack of success, I will be forever caught in a web of the past. I will look forward, I will not let my history control my destiny."


Everytime you feel the inclination to make an excuse for your lack of success, STOP, there is no excuses, only correct thinking and correct actions, if you have not been taking the correct actions to be successful, start today. Outline what it will take, make the decision to do whatever it takes and press on.

More on this subject tomorrow, but please feel free to comment or add to this thought.


Tuesday, November 16, 2010


Well it is fitting that this is my first blog as this book inspired me in a very profound way, I read this book because someone suggested that I should, so I went to the library and checked it out.
I was thoroughly unprepared for the voyage I was to be taken on,  WHAT AN AMAZING JOURNEY!
The Traveler's Gift, by Andy Andrews is touted as "The seven decisions that determine personal success", so I was prepared for another "self help" book, NOT SO, this was such a breath of fresh air that I wanted to start it all over the second I was finished reading it, I am serious!
This book is written as a story with a real fiction feel, but the sound principles in this book cannot be confused, you will definitely know EXACTLY how to achieve success in any portion of your life after completing this wonderful little book.
I was so impressed with this body of work that I went to his web-site to see what else he had there, I am posting the link here.
There seems to be some other wonderful books there that I will be reading this year, but for now, if you are stuck as to what to get someone for Christmas, please remember this book, I am buying a copy for each of my children this year (I hope they don't read this) and a couple to just have to hand out.
I also discovered that there is a - Young Traveler's Gift- for the kids.

But here is just a touch of what is inside:
The main character in this book, David Ponder, had his life planned out, his career, his family, his home...everything. Then a corporate buyout changed everything for him, suddenly unemployed he questioned everything in his life. In an act of desperation he calls one final "WHY ME?" and his journey begins. At each stop he meets with historical leaders who have the 7 decisions that will change his life.
I believe that they have changed mine and the wonderful Biblical principles throughout this book ring true with my spirit also.
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Happy reading